La Bona Dea's Journal of Everyday Magic

Storytelling which touches the heart and awakens the soul

On Loss

I heard that the last New Moon (April) would whisk away “what no longer served us”, and I knew that whatever worried me about that would not be in jeopardy. I was fully aware, from past experience, that when things are taken from you, those particular things are what you never questioned anyway.

If the first thing you think about, for example, is that you won’t be able to make your car payment, or be accepted into the college of your dreams, chances are those are not what the Universe is preparing to rip away from you. First of all, you already know in your heart of hearts that you will be able to make your payment or that you really never had a chance at that college anyway.

Secondly, the Universe watches you, with a wide scope, to see what you are all about and what will or will not work to keep you authentic; both spirit and you choice of pursuits.

So, when you hear that something “which no longer serves you” will be taken from you, look toward the things that you take for granted. Those things that you feel might be a permanent fixture in your life. How are they truly “serving” you? Then look for the suffering that will follow and the lessons that you will learn if they are lost. Look for pains that will deeply move, scare, or change you. These are the things that the Universe is monitoring. These are the losses that you must learn to live with.

Sometimes the loss it is as painful as losing a loved one, either to death or being blindsided by infidelities. Sometimes it is losing a job that you felt you were “simply stellar” at, or learning, with disappointment, that your dreams were not for you.

What happens to you then? How does it build your character? What changes inside of you- do you wake up the next day ready to begin all over again? Or do you roll over, blankets twisted around your body, immobilizing you, limiting you, so that you give up? What does this say about your self? Do you learn who you are just a little bit more? Do you hate how you feel? Either way, bouncing out of bed or rolling over, you surly feel changed.

The important thing to keep in mind is that change is what life is about. It is not is happening to you, but what is happening for you. It is difficult to remember this amidst the pain, disorientation, and ripped away trust, but it is what change does, it changes you. Experience is tucked away, but the hurts and pain must be given time to heal. Reactions to new lives born of change must be embraced and absorbed into the new you. The better, deeply enriched, all knowing, and beloved you.

Sorrows for losses but happy wishes on your many blessings yet to be revealed….. So mote it BE!

(I originally wrote this entry on May 10, 2016 and today is June 11, 2016. My daughter grew leaps and bounds improving her life over anxiety, I got asked to Mentor a Priestess Apprentice, I have been recognized at work, I had a poem published in the Redwood Writers Newsletter, my husband’s nephew got a special award for having straight A’s all through Junior High, my niece graduated High School, and my nephew just got drafted to the Kansas City Royals, MLB, and those are the only breakthroughs I am running off the top of my head; I see them and hear of them all around me lately. These accomplishments did not come without sacrifice or growing pains. The growth has lifted everyone to higher levels of being, with greater expectations and a new set of values to reconsider in the future as we all move forward. BLESSED BE!!!)


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